Last October, Hart of Dixie actress Jaime King and her husband Kyle Newman welcomed son James Knight Newman. Only now, the former model turned actress is revealing the struggles she and her husband went through to have their precious son.
Although King, 35, had told ABC News that it took her a long time to have James, only now is she giving more details, in an effort to support others who may be dealing with similar problems. In an emotional instagram post she said:
“For all the struggling women & moms out there that think they are alone – This is the truth about conceiving my son and struggles after. 8 yrs of pain and undiagnosed PCOS & Endometriosis. 9 doctors until Dr. Randy Harris diagnosed me & saved my life from a severe ectopic [pregnancy], 5 miscarriages, 5 rounds of IVF, 26 IUI’s, most with no outcome, 4½ years of trying to conceive, 26 hours of brutal labor, early delivery b/c of sudden preeclampsia, tearing and tearing after the stitches were in once I was home, milk supply issues, painful mastitis, uncontrollable crying while breast feeding, worked until the day before I [gave] birth and went back after 6 weeks after because I was afraid of letting others down.”
King added the following hashtags to the post: #youarenotalone, #ihavetobebravetosupportothers, #realtalkthatterrifiesus.
People often believe that “first time’s a charm” for many couples. Obviously this can happen, but for most couples this is not the case. The average length of time until conception is six months for women under 35 and 85% will become pregnant by one year. Put another way, for a woman in her twenties (at the peak of fertility) there is a 20% chance of getting pregnant each month. For women over 35 years old, this drops dramatically, and by age 40, the chance of getting pregnant in any given month is just 5% .
Infertility means not being able to get pregnant after one year of trying (or six months if a woman is 35 or older). Women who can get pregnant but are unable to stay pregnant may also be infertile.
Pregnancy is the result of a process that has many steps. To get pregnant:
Infertility can happen if there are problems with any of these steps.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), about 10 percent of women (6.1 million) in the United States ages 15-44 have difficulty getting pregnant or staying pregnant.
However, in couples experiencing difficulty trying to conceive, the problem lies equally with both the man and the women, with both female and male factors accounting for 30% of infertile couples.
Most cases of female infertility are caused by problems with ovulation. Without ovulation, there are no eggs to be fertilized. Some signs that a woman is not ovulating normally include irregular or absent menstrual periods.
Ovulation problems are often caused by polycystic ovarian syndrome(PCOS). PCOS is a hormone imbalance problem which can interfere with normal ovulation. PCOS is the most common cause of female infertility.
Primary ovarian insufficiency (POI) is another cause of ovulation problems. POI occurs when a woman’s ovaries stop working normally before she is 40. POI is not the same as early menopause.
Less common causes of fertility problems in women include:
What things increase a woman’s risk of infertility?
Many things can change a woman’s ability to have a baby. These include:
Infertility in men is most often caused by:
What increases a man’s risk of infertility?
A man’s sperm can be changed by his overall health and lifestyle. Some things that may reduce the health or number of sperm include:
No matter what the cause, couples with infertility issues often have a long and difficult road to travel to achieve their goal of having children. Fortunately, many more options are available today than in years past.
Even adoptions, something people did not speak about in the past, have become “fashionable” due to the high profile adoptions by celebrities such as Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, Sandra Bullock, Madonna, and Katherine Heigl.
I’ve put together a Resounding Health Casebook on Infertility with links to causes, treatment options, and support groups. I hope you will find it useful.
Have you had a successful infertility journey? An unsuccessful one? What was most/least helpful to you?